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The Truth Shall Set You Free. Reality or Fiction?

August 15th, 2008 5 Comments » Filed under Acknowledgement

I have a dear friend who loves to talk about the truth, he is on a mission to remind everybody who crosses his path to be truthful. When he pronounces the words t-h-e t-r-u-t-h, his voice raises. His face becomes invaded with urgency. You can hear every letter of the phrase lingering, aiming certainty. Like a beam lightening darkness. I love that about him. He is relentless with his message. Hungry for virgin ears who are open to listen. I think he is at his best when sustaining that conversation.

In the last few months I have been working with Ari Galper, the founder of Unlock the Game, coaching his Inner Circle members. He has created a new philosophy for sales professionals. A new Mindset. A new Mindset with a new foundation. The truth. An unprecedented concept in the traditional variety of sales techniques. I love that about Ari. In his own words, “It’s a different way of thinking based on integrity, honesty, and truth.” He says. “It’s like this…forget about business for a moment and think about your own personal life. Do you want relationships with people who are comfortable not telling you the truth? Well, selling is a relationship too, and you can probably understand why “techniques” endorsed by traditional sales trainers make building a genuine human relationship virtually impossible.”

Alice Miller, the polish/Swiss psychologist, philosopher and sociologist who was an advocate for children during most of the 20th Century wrote a book called “The Truth will set you free.” It’s about overcoming emotional blindness and Finding your True Adult Self. This book speaks to the true nature of the human soul, it argues that only by embracing the truth about our past stories we can achieve contentment in the present.

My father used to say that you can deceive others, but you can’t deceive yourself. Even though it sounds good, I found through my experience that the contrary is often true. It is very easy to deceive yourself. But you can’t deceive others. When you pretend being somebody else, shows. People can see through you. Sometimes you stand embellishing your act convinced that your little secret is not out, when everybody is aware of it except yourself. It is not a good scene for you nor everybody else. Incredibly, enough people love you anyway because you have so many great traits that make up for the deceit. You are a great person who wants to pretend is somebody else. After all is your life. You are the master of your destiny right? Can you imagine how much more others would love you if you were not so afraid to show your real self?

Or if they didn’t, how good it would feel to accept they are not a fit for you? And move on?

Now, why do you do that? There are hundreds of reasons. We all do it to some extent while we walk through life trying to find out who we really are. Among those diverse reasons from our different circumstances, the bottom line, COMMON TO ALL OF US IS ONE MAIN REASON:

YOU ARE NOT GIVING PERMISSION TO YOURSELF TO BE YOU.

The thing is that you came to this world to be you. The one and only. Nobody else. “Le pese a quien le pese. Especialmente a ti. ” No matter what anybody thinks. Especially you.

I’ll remind you, that not allowing yourself to be you has some constant consequences. You know what they are, you are living them or used to live them. They are detrimental.

Let’s review some.

  1. You have to pretend most of the time.
  2. Your desires are not important.
  3. You feel split inside most of the time.
  4. You feel like you are cheating yourself most of the time.
  5. You doubt a lot.
  6. You are unable to express your feelings.
  7. You can’t relate to other people.
  8. Your resentment is bottled inside.
  9. You become passive aggressive.

Actually accepting yourself exactly as you are, will erase all those feelings. For good.

You will feel free, energized, humbled, open, vulnerable, inspired, enriched, calm, human, strong.

In one word, truthful.

I promise.

Give yourself permission to be you.

Luz

The Thought Provoking, Irreverent  Pearl Necklace Grandmother of the 21st C. Paradigm Shifter, Poet, Storyteller, Marketer, Visionary, Blogger, Coach.

Founder Soul Hangout http://soulhangout.net/2171
Founder of  Co-Creative Circles of Coherence, Soul Mastermind Groups. Consciously Connecting & Combining Intelligence with a touch of “Curry”. The 7 “C”‘s of the 7 Condiments of Cooperation

Luz

The Thought Provoking, Irreverent Pearl Necklace Grandmother of the 21st C. Paradigm Shifter, Poet, Storyteller, Marketer, Visionary, Blogger, Coach. Mrs. Fire

“50/50 The Magic of the Middle Line”, Experience Coaching”

Founder Soul Hangout & Co-Creative Circles of Coherence, Soul Mastermind Groups. Consciously Connecting & Combining Intelligence with a touch of “Curry”. The 7 “C”‘s of the 7 Condiments of Cooperation

http://soulhangout.net/2171

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