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“I am so sorry for what you went through. I honor your pain and I apologize for my part in the situation.
I am so sorry! If I could change the past, go to that moment again and undo it, I would not hesitate. At any cost. But I can’t. All I could do at the time, was not allow anything like that to happen again.
I also carry the pain of that memory. As you do. With empathy I have been able to accept it and forgive myself.” I said to my son.
” I cannot change the past, but what I can do is change the present and the future.” – I continued.
He was 15 years old, it was around that time of the dismemberment of the family. The sorrow, the helplessness, the wrath of divorce. Like that wasn’t enough, he had a horrible fight with his older brother. Instigated by me in an indirect manner but the result was very direct, harming him in a deep way.
Sometimes is only one scene in the plateau of our lives that will make a mark in the delicate fabric of trust.
Sometimes anger goes around misplacing its motives looking for a scape goat. Sometimes when that happens, the wound invades the innocence of the personality, staining its source.
It is outrageously unfair.
He was cheerful, kind, helpful… supportive. It all changed.
He felt betrayed… abandoned… unloved…alone…helpless. Watching his change was torture.
Knowing I had provoked it, was hell.
It took some time to notice the consequences. It took some time to heal.
I never resisted his anger. He just needed to express it. I acknowledged the need for it when he wasn’t too furious to listen. I admired him for being so open with it. I admired his determination for demanding better.
At some level his anger was a gift. It kept me conscious.
I took it step by step.
But I had to make peace with it.
I had the privilege of having a lot of help and support. After several conversations with friends digging into the roots of the problem, and taking action to make sure it was not going to be repeated, I was able to accept it as a painful scene, frozen in the past. The past I was helpless to change.
I have had several soul conversations with my beautiful son about it. Now he is 25. I think he is at peace with it too. His kindness and helpfulness came back. He is involved and supportive again…and the cheerfulness, mainly the cheerfulness, enlightening his path is back.
He made peace with his brother years ago.
That Saturday morning, he was open, we talked about it in depth in his bedroom, with his girlfriend, when he was 16. After exploring his pain, his father’s pain at his age and the weakness of human nature in general, he said:
“And when you do this mom, when you acknowledge the past in the present, you not only change the present and the future but you also change the past.”
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Ari Galper, the Pioneer Visionary Sales Guru of the 21st C, who dared to bring truth and humanity to the sales equation." Luz is a precious gift to the world. She has single handedly changed hundreds of lives of our Unlock The Game Inner Circle members.
She has an effortless and natural ability to help people see the truth of why they are struggling and then provide a logical path to happiness, authenticity and success. If you get the chance to work with Luz (I know she has a long waiting list of clients), then grab it while you can!"
Suffice it to say, Luz, that you are on my “Top 10 List of Love & Power-filled Women Role Models”. You delightfully epitomize a woman who seamlessly blends ’spirituality’ with Divine power and fun humor…a far cry from the dour, pious saint of yester-century! A new breed of spiritual personification is permeating our present century, and she wears a huuuuuuuuge smile! Thanks so much for being one of her faces!
I especially want to single out Luz Aguirrebena. I’ve only spent a couple sessions with her on the mindset chat forums but can say that these two hours have been worth the price of the entire system. Her suggestions and serving cold caller coaching have adjusted my approach to one of a much more confident, calm, Luz is a true jewel: compassionate, direct, loving, and ever so knowledgeable
What was most exciting about our time together was that Luz is an acute listener and clearly articulates what can be difficult and nebulous ideas or theories in a way that I could understand and take away with me.
Anyone who senses that he or she has some kind of barrier or confusion around an issue would benefit from a session with Luz who quickly and painlessly escorts you through the Mystery in which you find yourself, shows you the highlights and helps you move on
Luz is a keen and perceptive coach, an honest partner and resilient manager. She is ably and ideally suited to focus her cohorts and clients on the important things in business, in a relationship, in life and in our hearts. She is valued and cherished by those around her as a person full of love, sympathy, concern and a practical nature that values simple, compassionate, common sense based solutions to the most intimate wrenching problems we face. I know this because she helped me through difficult and daunting times
That connection with life that one achieves conversing with you is a wonderful feeling!…time stops and one minute becomes an eternity…Difficult to express it in words…You have a gift to connect the other person with with his or her most profound being and revive situations that come back to clarify themes of the past and position them back in a more balanced and sane place in our lives.
My personal experience by your side has been very strong and I believe you have given me many tools to work in my personal development!!!
From my earliest memories of Luzma’s guidance, to my most recent, she has always been confident in her insights, but equally confident in my ability to determine what I need. I’ve known Luzma as long as I’ve known myself because she has taught me how to learn and embrace who I am.
I could think of no better way for Luzma to spend her time than as a life coach. She has always provoked a natural exchange, often by those who are in need of support most but unlikely to share it with friends or family. By Luzma being so sure in her own skin, the apprehensive gravitate toward her and they too lose all inhibition—I’ve seen it! If given the opportunity to expand her coaching, she will help countless more people reach their potential.
I am very thankful for everything you did for me during my divorce. It was difficult and painful to accept. You taught me how to express my emotions without drama.
I’m in awe of her abilities and effect as a counselor or coach. When Luz articulates her insights about psychological or spiritual concepts that I’m already familiar with, she does it with such a lightness and a clarity that these concepts become new for me and, somewhat ironically, bring on a relieving stillness. Following her train of thought has often enabled the transformation in me that I was struggling for but could barely imagine. It’s very much like Dante describes the effect Beatrice has on him in The Paradiso. Without any emotional or intellectual struggle or physical sensation, by following Luz’s train of thought, my perception of the world and myself is suddenly . . . different. . . . and easier
I was thinking about you over the weekend and about how passionate you are about what you do. I truly believe that you are a success because you have taken your passion and made it your life





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