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October 21st, 2010 2 Comments » Filed under The Hawk Mindset

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I am here watching Chilean TV,  I am fascinated with the miners crusade. At the same time, I am working  in the computer figuring out how to engage you guys at a deeper level…and facing the fear involved in the process of building trust, invading the lack of knowledge,  the unknown territory.

Definitely the antidote for fear is knowledge…information.

Last week Neal Worthington and I spoke about “Fear” in our blogtalk radio program. “Passing the Torch of Sustainability to Millennials” . We chew on how our self belief is buried in so many layers of mind thinking and speaking, instead of heart thinking and speaking. How hard it is to awake the cells in our bodies that don’t believe in ourselves and let them sing the keynote of our existence in somewhere in the song of creation.

How building trust is a step at the time process. Taking carefully and mindfully layer by layer that is interfering with the ONENESS of all things away. Like pealing an onion, crying in the process. Crying for the pain of the loss and the joy of the gain.

How this process has a sequence, like every process in nature that cannot be rushed. A pear is ripe when it is ripe, and a child will walks when it walks.

How the face of fear visited me every step of the process, and how I had to confront it and start the conversation.  How more and more, makes sense that the fear of the new is overcome by repetition. Rehearsal, study and ultimately knowledge. like learning to ride a bicycle. Once you learn it, you master it for life.

How feeling the fear out loud,  is such a liberating experience, it creates coherence and resonance. Because we are not the only ones who are afraid. We all are afraid. Afraid of the illusion of not knowing, or making mistakes. Or the illusion that the result is the only important thing, neglecting the richness of the process.  See how crazy it is? How are you going to learn without trial and error. Why would mistakes then would be such a sacred cow. Pure nonsense. I tell you.

When you are riding your passion and you are doing that thing called your purpose, they both shine through the fear of the new. Time after time, trial after error, until you become a master of the craft. Then the illusion of fear will be only a memory in the past.

Neal asked me to please listen to the program  last week. The truth is I was so afraid that couldn’t listen to the previous one. I did. And yes, you can tell I am afraid here. However, the message gets across in spite of the limited vocabulary produced by the tension of the new.

Here is the link. Let me know what you think.

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An Entrepreneur has to start by working with fear rather than allowing fear to take over. That can only be overcome by understanding that it is only normal to be afraid and all you have to do is look at fear in the eye, confront it and conquer it. Through repetition, the same way it was inserted in your mind when you lost your innocence as a child. Repetitively.

I haven’t been writing too much on the blog lately…I have been very busy with the marketing,  giving the last touch ups to my offer. Also, working on exciting projects with some facebook friends. Melissa Allison and Ani Kaspar.

After my lifetime research of the human mind and behaviors, as many of you know, I decided to focus in the Entrepreneur Mindset. Simply because small businesses fail at a rate of 8O% within the first 5 years.

I believe with all my heart that to turn that figure around we need to start aligning our thoughts and start THINKING like Entrepreneurs. There is no other way. When you align your thoughts, your brain takes about 30 days to acquire the repetitive message,  shifting the thinking and modifying the behaviors.

…And “Fear” is the first thought/feeling  you have to work with. To succeed in business you have to be able to use the fear to your advantage. Not against you. By accepting it first.

It is as choice, and a fundamental one if you want to succeed in business.

At the same time I have been thinking that it makes sense to start a diary on Soul Hangout, about my story as an Entrepreneur.  How everything started.  What were the thoughts behind the story. What are now the thoughts behind the story. “Living in the Present is History in the Making”.

So… stay tuned to hear about how it all began with my own the Inner Child,  meet Grace.  How it all began on January 27 2007.  It will be in chapters. That way you will not have to read too long.  That way you wand I will look forward to the next day.  To the  ongoing Entrepreneur thinking like an Entrepreneur story.

And don’t forget “Fear” is the first illusion you need to  eradicate from your thinking if you want to be a successful Entrepreneur.

Next week we will talk about “Judgment” Another thought to align to succeed as an Entrepreneur.

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day.

September 5th, 2010 3 Comments » Filed under Inner Child Quote

As a little girl I used to daydream about my real father coming on a white horse to rescue me.

~Christine Keeler~

One way of reading my life is that I have been in constant search for a father.

~Christine Keeler~

In here you see “the drama of the gifted child” as Alice Miller would say. A little girl who dreams for her father to come and rescue her carrying the same dream into adulthood. What she didn’t understand is that in adulthood she didn’t need a father any more. Now she was an adult…makes sense?

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day.

August 17th, 2010 4 Comments » Filed under Inner Child Quote

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.

~Buddha ~

That is why your child within helps, because she/he brings her/his dreams into the present. Possessing it with a capacity to disconnect from what happened yesterday even if it was painful. I always admired that versatility and sense of wonder in children. They are our best model.

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day.

August 5th, 2010 1 Comment » Filed under Inner Child Quote


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You know that the answer to change is repetition, right? There is no magic bullet. Repetition is the only non glamorous option. One way or the other. That is what suits the brain the best.  So… The question is What are you repeating? Are you repeating the unwanted things or the wanted things in your precious life?

It is in the process of repeating where the light is. Not in the end result. Otherwise you miss your life. You were in a rush to get to the end of it :)

Your Inner Child is waiting for you to archive all the things that you are carrying from your parents or society and  are destructive to you,  in the archives of the past and keep the ones that will make you blossom and ignite your passion to contribute in the eternally unraveling present.

~Luz~

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day

August 1st, 2010 3 Comments » Filed under Inner Child Quote

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.

~Anais Nin~

And honestly, that is the very moment that your Inner Child has been waiting for. To embark with you in the wandering awareness of blossoming.

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day

August 1st, 2010 39 Comments » Filed under Inner Child Quote

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What is sad for women of my generation is that they weren’t supposed to work if they had families. What were they going to do when the children are grown – watch the raindrops coming down the window pane?

~Jackie Kennedy ~

You may ask why this quote is relevant to the Inner Child. Let me elaborate. This quote marks a moment in history that changed the life of many children  for ever.  Jackie has a great point about the well deserved  woman’s fulfillment as a professional at the same time that she is  a satisfied mother.

We, the Baby Boomers were not going to stay at home and become the domestic type, no matter how glamorous they may have looked  from the outside. It was too painful to see how unhappy our mothers had been. We had more to give to society than “just” changing diapers, cooking, cleaning and driving back and fort  kids from one activity to the next. We believed in it and trusted we could do both well. That was  how we fell in the trap.

We didn’t stop and think how sustainable the professional development of ourselves  was going to be for  our children. We didn’t stop an think if society had a support system that would make up for the change. We jumped to the opportunity of following the carrot hanging from a stick in front of our nose. We didn’t ask any questions. We did what women do most of the time. We gave ourselves completely to the two worlds. Unconditionally.

How much trade in human capital we were exchanging, was the question.  It was a trap. We ended up doing double and of course not really succeeding at neither. No matter how much money we were making.

The truth is, we were writing a contract with the workforce namely corporations, where work was first, second and third. Our children came after.  We ended up with 50 working  hours per week and our children grew up by themselves home alone, with the company of their peers,  the  TV and their  video games.

The corporation was everything. I will remind everybody that the family leave act was only signed in 1992. Before that, there was always a Damocles sword hanging on your head that said “if you are pregnant you could be fired without impunity any minute”.  Think about it for a moment.  Your salary or your kid. What message were those kids e receiving from the moment of  their creation.

For those of you that are shaking your head, I will remind you how the hole in the stomach felt when our child was sick, on a rainy day in the middle of the winter. Honestly how did it feel. Let me help here. It felt like an inconvenience, because he or she was interrupting the work flow.

The truth is they were an inconvenience. We had already settled for that kind mindless mindset.   So, what is the message we were giving to our children.  Very clear, right? They were an inconvenience in this bizarre  new social equation we had created where money ruled everything. It was swallowing us all.

We gave our loyalty to the corporation. We also gave them our sweat our blood,  our children’ precious time and our peace of mind. Most of our children grew up with a lot  of stuff, in a very lonely place.

When we spent time with them we were too absent  or exhausted to be present. Then, we praised them and enable them because deep down we felt so guilty. Those children of yesterday are the beautiful generation of today that grew up after that decision we made when Jackie Kennedy was  through the experience of her generation championing for us.

This is a “little detail”  about millennials that everybody is forgetting. They experienced our hole in the stomach when they were sick, and the panic in our eyes many times not because they were sick but it was a disruption  for our workforce.

Now, can you blame millennials for refusing to conform to our model? They are the direct result of that.  It wasn’t good growing up with absent parents running around like maniacs, pretending to be big shots of something they even didn’t know what it was about,  an illusion  only in their heads.

They experienced the  very clear  abandonment from every aspect of society.  Honestly don’t deceive yourself,   they didn’t matter. We were busy with more important things. Now, did we do the best we could with what we had?  Sure we did.  But it wasn’t a good contract for us, nor our children.  We got the short side of the stick,  and it didn’t even make us happy in the end.

This is what millennials refuse to compromise today. Their solid principles.They put family, relationships and friends first. They want to be good parents  but are not interested in giving their children  a large empty house.  They understand their time and attention will be critical for their children. We taught them that. They will not settle for any less than the quality of life they envision.  Who can blame them.  It was too painful for them to watch us too.

…And yes, it is relevant to the collective consciousness of the Inner Child. It is up to each of us to raise it.  Millennials are leading the way. Good for them!

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day.

July 28th, 2010 9 Comments » Filed under Inner Child Quote

If a little dreaming is dangerous, the cure for it is not to dream less but to dream more, to dream all the time.

~Marcel Proust~

We all have the obligation to go back to reinventing out capacity to dream.  Nurturing our imagination as we did when we were kids. It is in that sacred place where our connection to divinity was broken where we can find ourselves again. Giving birth to that Inner Child that was induced to keep silence and not allowed to dream.

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day

July 27th, 2010 7 Comments » Filed under Inner Child Quote

Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person.

~Mother Teresa ~

And guess what! That is what your Inner Child is craving for. That moment that you decide to honor those dreams he/she secretly entertains. Those dreams that speak of your enormous value and your needed contribution in the world. Those dreams that are ready to burst out and splash the world with your brilliance, those dreams that speak about cooperation and unity, not separation and competition. You, the millennial generation know that.

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day

July 26th, 2010 4 Comments » Filed under Inner Child Quote

Natural ability without education has more often raised a man to glory and virtue than education without natural ability.

~Marcus T. Cicero ~

This is such a good point.  Especially in a culture that doesn’t honor natural abilities nor authenticity.  Every Inner Child inside of every adult is longing and waiting for us all to plug into our own  natural abilities, acknowledge them, honor them and use them to contribute to a better world, hand in hand  with your passion. The world is waiting for your natural abilities to be shared in coherence with his, co-creatively.

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Inner Child Inspirational quote of the day.

July 25th, 2010 7 Comments » Filed under Inner Child Quote

I believe that you control your destiny, that you can be what you want to be. You can also stop and say, No, I won’t do it, I won’t behave his way anymore. I’m lonely and I need people around me, maybe I have to change my methods of behaving and then you do it.

~Leo Buscaglia ~

This is the key moment of enlightenment and self acceptance. The moment we choose ourselves and give birth to our new behaviors, inherent to our source and purpose, the ones that are only pertinent to us, over the ones we couldn’t help but inherit from our parents and society as a whole. The only power we have is to change our perceptions, since changing others belongs with their personal task, not ours.

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