…And above all, keep trusting! Even if your trust is betrayed. Yes, you read correctly. Even if you are betrayed. Here is what happens…we learn from the actions of our parents, not from what they say. In other words we learn from the modeling behaviors of our parents and society in general. When you are betrayed you are because the other person was not exposed to the concept of trust in its entire wholesome meaning. Therefore, again even if you feel like a da#& ass when you are betrayed, remember it is not personal and you are still providing a great value by modeling your sense of trust for the person who betrayed you. It was never a waste. They are trying to learn that behavior from you…The truth is they don’t know how to trust….and even if they are not aware just yet, they deep inside are drawn to you because of your sense of trust. They want to learn that from you.
Bottom line, to trust others you have to trust yourself and if you don’t, is because you are measuring everybody else against your own perception of who you are and mainly your conditioning… in other words “the thief believes everybody is like him.” If he is not trustworthy obviously he will not trust anybody. He knows better.
Move on and keep trusting. Like a child
And above all enjoy the people who honor and respect your trust because the joy of reciprocity creates more trust and co-creative coherence in the world. In other words Oneness.
In the end we all do the best we can with what we have. The difference is in the modeling we were exposed to and we attract each other with one purpose only, to be modeled the behavior we need to incorporate in our persona to become whole again mirroring others.
A couple of days ago my endearing sister Ani Kaspar posted a fascinating application on my wall. (I always love to follow Ani and play with Ani because among many other genius things she walks, she discovers these great toys). The application showed my fb picture framed by facebook and read this short message above the picture : “May God always bless this kind person below with peace, love and happiness.” Underneath my picture it said: “yes, t’s you”… I looked at it, read it, looked at the picture and just felt like wooohooo that’s me!!! …so good. I felt so completely acknowledged!. Thank you Ani! Exactly what I needed this morning (and probably every morning until I leave this ungrateful planet). ..(Smile) Kidding, it was pure sense of joy!
Then when I read the thread I was curious as how it worked…it looked like everybody in the thread had received the same thing.
Wait a minute, how do you send something to one person with that person’s pic and everybody receives it with their picture… Anyway. Pretty hard to understand mechanism for my my right brain thinking. It was clear it also felt like magic for everybody who received it the same way it felt like magic for me. Ani kept saying : “share , pointing at the link …Then I decided to share. It intrigued me how it worked and this was a way to explore the intriguing application.
My thread kept growing and bringing more happy people touched by the magic. The thread is still growing after 48 hours!
Fascinating stuff. (Some people were saying it was a spam but I checked everything with other friends and so far looks like is completely legit…you know how careful you have to be with spammers if you’ve been in fb for a while.) The other great advantage of the application is that it brought to my wall so many people I haven’t talked in a long time almost instantly. Pretty cool!
This led me to confirm one more time how so very crucial it is for us as human beings to be acknowledged. That is what this application does for people. Acknowledgment! What a gift! In a planet where you are considered as a number and acknowledgment has become by choice a useless commodity.
That is why a lot doesn’t feel good inside most of the time. Without acknowledgment we don’t exist. We are a drawing on the wall. When it feels like that, like being a drawing on the wall you are on the way to lose yourself. Therefore that is the moment you are under the ultimate obligation of acknowledging yourself. Why?
Because you are the ultimate authority within yourself and believe it or not, the only acknowledgment that your soul will verify as valid is the one coming from you, your ultimate authority. Makes sense? If it does, I want to share with you the status my friend Bruce Fowler wrote in facebook. I know it will help:
It is about the person in the mirror…
“Never neglect the person you see in the mirror. This is the only person in the world, who has witnessed the entirety of your life. This person has experienced the thick the thin, the highs the lows, the good the bad. There aren’t to many certainties in life, but without a doubt you can always count on the person in the mirror. So in exchange for this life long service be sure to place a high value on him or her.”
…and please don’t forget the person in the mirror is the only person in the world who can truly help you! Why?
Again, because the only acknowledgment that he or she needs is your acknowledgment. Nobody else’. Serious! There is a reason for that. You are the only one who has the authority to issue the codes your soul can verify. The only one that can quiet your restless soul. The illusion is that somebody else can do that when only you can.
What an inspiration Bruce… great image!
At the same time it makes me happy that people come up with creative ways to start bringing acknowledgment to our every day thinking feeling and speaking.
Thanks again Ani and Bruce~~~
…and remember to start acknowledging the person in the mirror as the blessing in your life. Every time he or she shows up in the crystal clear surface of his or her own reflection.
Here are my thoughts on acknowledgment
Do you recall one of those painful situations that felt like you wanted to crawl in a hole under a rock and forget ? Do you recall with the passing of time those memories somehow made some sense and healed?
If you are experiencing that kind of trauma right now, remember, that scene of your life is attached to your whole story. It is only a scene among the multiple scenes in the play of your life.
Only one more scene.The difference is that this one hurts… The best was always to acknowledge it, mourn the loss give it some time, move to the next scene… and no matter what, not fall into the temptation of repeating that scene over and over in your mind and get stuck there. Right?
You would be closing the door to too many new opportunities…
Because somethings you can’t change. The Serenity prayer one of my favorite prayers of all times recites:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can change and the wisdom to know the difference…
Things you can’t change you have to accept. Period.
You want one more reason?
My friend Kristal McVicar artitculates it in a perfect way today in facebook:
“All endings are the pathway to new beginnings. All beginnings lead to endings. This circle is never broken even though we differentiate between endings and beginnings, life and death, good and bad, right and wrong. All a perfect part of the unending circle of creation…………” xoxoxoxox
Therefore, as Albert Einstein said so wisely. “Knowledge is only experience”… never mind if they are good or bad scenes attached to your life or they are at the beginning or the end of this or that circle. Whether they look ugly or pretty. There is only one truth. All experiences become knowledge…not only the good ones.
Here is to us thinking, feeling and speaking the language of the heart. Activating the powerful magnet of our hearts collectively in oneness. Thanks Kristal for the inspiration…it is such a great subject! Big hug to all!