There is only one person in the world who is entitled to be the center of the universe. That is the 4 year old child. When she is not given this entitlement she will become a spoiled brat governing the body of the adult endlessly and desperately demanding the emotional integrity she missed at 4.

~Luz~

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I was born on March 9th, of the year 1949 in Santiago, Chile. The city of the valleys  surrounded by mountains. In the winter, those mountains were covered with snow. When the sun came out of his hiding place behind the clouds, and lit the snow on its thick  coat on the mountains, against the clear blue sky they just  reflected the immaculate shine of their whiteness on us, the inhabitants of the city, as if they were reminding us to celebrate the powerful star in the center of our universe.

Exacerbating its brightness to the point that your eyes would almost get blinded with such clarity. As if they wanted to remind us of our own brightness and immaculate whiteness.

Bringing the message of the heart from the Condor from the South.

That is perhaps one of the things I miss the most about Santiago. The joy of the snowy mountains on a winter sunny day. Every time I go visit, I secretly hope the next day will be sunny and bring that memory and magnificently comforting  feeling of my childhood. I can’t stop admiring them and talking about their majesty. My nieces laugh at me. They are used to them. They never left them for good. They see them with different eyes.

My early childhood went by,  surrounded by flowers, butterflies, Swiss cotton, velvet, and organza, music, ballet, Spanish dance, and tango, books, buttons, Nannies who brought  great stories from the South, Hungarian Gypsies trying to read your hand for a couple of coins, and a black cat named Nino.

Festive gatherings with friends and the large basque clan carrying my father’s ancestors, my two little brothers, parents who called me the little golden girl and meant it, godparents who taught me how to imagine  enchanted faraway cities from Paris to the Berlin before the 1st world war, passing by London and Rome,  Kyoto and Delhi. The sharing of their  foreign traveling experience.

You have to understand, Chile’s geographic location  is so far away, that makes  people living in the valley surrounded by mountains dream of ancient places afar, like European and Asian cities.

Now, when I look back, I see clearly why I ended focusing in the Inner Child as in starting a movement by divulging the imperative need to take action to re-parent it, for all of us. It was Alice Miller who scientifically confirmed what I believed with all my heart. In a phrase,  “violence is not genetic”.

I was privileged to have a good life foundation for the first 9 years of my life. I think I lost the innocence when I was 7.  That is when everything started falling apart.

By then, the entitlement of being and feeling the center of that universe was already imprinted in my soul.  I still had my full emotional integrity. That is what helped keep my Inner Child pure, creative, innocent, using out of the box and critical thinking no matter how much resistance I encountered in the outside world.  No matter how much the rejection to innovation that used to feel so personal hurt. No matter how much I felt like I was coming from another planet. No matter how her soul was broken in a thousand pieces.

Critical thinking was very important for my parents.

They were always expressing and verbalizing their passion for Philosophy, History,  Art and Metaphysics,  the eternal question of “why are we here”, was often asked and thoughtfully attempted to be answered in deep and satisfying conversations.  They incorporated reading very early in my childhood.

I attended a private German School for girls subsidized by the German government. Even though the happenings were in the middle of the 20th Century, it was a very progressive school. For those nuns it  was about educating thinking women who stand out of the pack. They had a very ambitious and expansive curriculum.

My parents’ traumatic divorce at 9 caught me with an armor of love that helped deal with the bruises and blood shed of separation and competition. An out of the ordinary  foundation of unity laughter and love. I guess at some level I could hear my Inner Child’s voice,  Grace, almost always, no matter how much I needed to bury her in pain.

How was it possible that all of that world I lived in was suddenly broken for the rest of my life, and I had to learn to accept living with it. What a cheat!!! . How one does throw such a quality of life down the drain. It was hard to understand. Not only for me, for the entire family. Some people speculate that it was too perfect, and they still tell the story in disbelief.

After 9,  it always felt like the behaviors of the adults were too conditioned to things they didn’t even know they carried inside from their parents. I could feel the wounded Inner Child very early on, starting with my parents. Perhaps because mine was always acknowledged prior to the separation, I  refused to at least consciously turn my back to her.  Unconsciously her emotional integrity was broken. Even though she was even though she was not always acknowledged,  her fire was present all of the time.

That is one thing I am grateful for my parents. I don’t think I could have made it the same way without that dreamy contented full foundation of the first years. I was always extremely empathetic and conscious of people’ Inner Child pain.  Soon,  a natural coach developed in me.  She was the person everybody came to when they had a problem. My openness, authenticity and passion for the truth made people trust me in a very easy way.

So, by the time I started Soul Hangout, all my friends were saying “It is about time”

December 19th 2010.

When the cards were laid in 2007, and I counted on all of my time,  24/7 to think about my tribe business model and its contribution to sustainability, I asked myself the question. What is the theme closest to your heart what is the theme closest to your experience what is the one that will make the most impact. What is the story you want to tell every day with all your heart for the next 2 years, or 10 years.

The truth is, I have lived such a diverse life that gave me the opportunity to master so many different crafts  in the self improvement industry, that it was difficult to choose. It required some thinking. Self Improvement is one of the leading industries and the most important one for this time and age. We need to train our thoughts to re invent the world…because it is a new world.  It requires a new language coming from new thinking.

So, again, what is the thing in your life repertoir that will ignite your passion to get up in the morning every day with a renewed expanded energy, the thing that you see as your purpose and is bigger than you. Nothing less of that or short of that is worth living. Not worth living. Very simple.

Don’t you want to say that you are done living a depending, useless, and without purpose life?  For me it was like that. It is not worth one more minute working for some corporation with the only purpose of making a living. Not worth it one more minute, totally worth to explore no matter what happens and how many bumps on the road I encounter. Bigger than me. Way bigger. It scares some people. But that is another story.

So, my dear friend, here are the 4 questions again.

What is the thing you will pick to be the icon of your life purpose? What is the closest to your heart, what is the closest to your experience, what is the one that will create more impact and most of all which one is the one that will make you jump out of bed in the morning riding the wave of  your full potential and passion to create?

…Passion to create and purpose are one of those things like being born and dying. You have your own reasons, it is your journey.   Somehow you do it alone, and invite people to celebrate, cooperate and share with once it is born. You need support with that process.

You need the support that understands there is no conditioning in that support. Instead, complete respect for your vision. The respect you have for your vision.  The respect that a friend of Thomas Edison would have showed when he witnessed the 5,000 time of trial of  the fluorescent bulb, and patiently would be willing to extend the support  5,000 more times if it was necessary. That kind of support. Any other support, is detrimental. So if you encounter it, run away from it. It interferes.

Here is an article I wrote about Thomas Edison and his 10,000 tries.

http://www.soulhangout.net/what-would-you-have-said-if-your-were-thomas-edisons-friend-at-the-5000-try/

December 26th 2010.

Some people have asked me to blog more often.  While I am creating service products, actual info products and books, and using most of my time in sales letters and other content marketing materials, I want to let you all know that I will be doing it more  often  by the beginning of the next year. Once the systems are in place and working.

Thanks for all your great comments and encouragement. Some people are interested in expanding the conversation of the Inner Child as in charge of the visionary team. It will come very soon.

Thanks so much to Soul Hangout followers and members. Have a happy holiday and a new mindfully coherent co-creative year in 2011.

Tuesday 20th of April 2011.

It has been 4 years and 3 months since I started to work full time on my life purpose. That is the time it took to research and co-create in coherence “The Hawk Mindset” . The only trans formative Thought Masters training for Entrepreneurs to ignite their passion to contribute and full creativity.

It was like having thousands of keynotes in my head that I was to use to create my own melody. The melody of my unique experience expanded in marketing words that would come from the bottom of my soul from the writer and the coach inside . At times it was hard to do. They seemed too many keynotes…

No way they all belong to only one program… Well, I was wrong…every piece I have written, every conversation I have had, every quote I have thought of, every article came form the wholeness of what now is the The Hawk Mindset. Everything fits in one comprehensive program. I am the first one surprised.

It is something like walking with the burning desire with its perception of the big picture and the blind faith sustaining all my doubts emerging from the doubts from the small picture.

What is fascinating is that today I am thrilled to announce that each single key note had a fundamental place in the finished product. Each single letter enhances the tone to the next in the wholeness of my newly found sequenced language. Launching very soon. Thanks to all for the great support

Today

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I am here watching Chilean TV,  I am fascinated with the miners crusade. At the same time, I am working  in the computer figuring out how to engage you guys at a deeper level…and facing the fear involved in the process of building trust, invading the lack of knowledge,  the unknown territory.

Definitely the antidote for fear is knowledge…information.

Last week Neal Worthington and I spoke about “Fear” in our blogtalk radio program. “Passing the Torch of Sustainability to Millennials” . We chew on how our self belief is buried in so many layers of mind thinking and speaking, instead of heart thinking and speaking. How hard it is to awake the cells in our bodies that don’t believe in ourselves and let them sing the keynote of our existence in somewhere in the song of creation.

How building trust is a step at the time process. Taking carefully and mindfully layer by layer that is interfering with the ONENESS of all things away. Like pealing an onion, crying in the process. Crying for the pain of the loss and the joy of the gain.

How this process has a sequence, like every process in nature that cannot be rushed. A pear is ripe when it is ripe, and a child will walks when it walks.

How the face of fear visited me every step of the process, and how I had to confront it and start the conversation.  How more and more, makes sense that the fear of the new is overcome by repetition. Rehearsal, study and ultimately knowledge. like learning to ride a bicycle. Once you learn it, you master it for life.

How feeling the fear out loud,  is such a liberating experience, it creates coherence and resonance. Because we are not the only ones who are afraid. We all are afraid. Afraid of the illusion of not knowing, or making mistakes. Or the illusion that the result is the only important thing, neglecting the richness of the process.  See how crazy it is? How are you going to learn without trial and error. Why would mistakes then would be such a sacred cow. Pure nonsense. I tell you.

When you are riding your passion and you are doing that thing called your purpose, they both shine through the fear of the new. Time after time, trial after error, until you become a master of the craft. Then the illusion of fear will be only a memory in the past.

Neal asked me to please listen to the program  last week. The truth is I was so afraid that couldn’t listen to the previous one. I did. And yes, you can tell I am afraid here. However, the message gets across in spite of the limited vocabulary produced by the tension of the new.

Here is the link. Let me know what you think.

An Entrepreneur has to start by working with fear rather than allowing fear to take over. That can only be overcome by understanding that it is only normal to be afraid and all you have to do is look at fear in the eye, confront it and conquer it. Through repetition, the same way it was inserted in your mind when you lost your innocence as a child. Repetitively.

I haven’t been writing too much on the blog lately…I have been very busy with the marketing,  giving the last touch ups to my offer. Also, working on exciting projects with some facebook friends. Melissa Allison and Ani Kaspar.

After my lifetime research of the human mind and behaviors, as many of you know, I decided to focus in the Entrepreneur Mindset. Simply because small businesses fail at a rate of 8O% within the first 5 years.

I believe with all my heart that to turn that figure around we need to start aligning our thoughts and start THINKING like Entrepreneurs. There is no other way. When you align your thoughts, your brain takes about 30 days to acquire the repetitive message,  shifting the thinking and modifying the behaviors.

…And “Fear” is the first thought/feeling  you have to work with. To succeed in business you have to be able to use the fear to your advantage. Not against you. By accepting it first.

It is as choice, and a fundamental one if you want to succeed in business.

At the same time I have been thinking that it makes sense to start a diary on Soul Hangout, about my story as an Entrepreneur.  How everything started.  What were the thoughts behind the story. What are now the thoughts behind the story. “Living in the Present is History in the Making”.

So… stay tuned to hear about how it all began with my own the Inner Child,  meet Grace.  How it all began on January 27 2007.  It will be in chapters. That way you will not have to read too long.  That way you wand I will look forward to the next day.  To the  ongoing Entrepreneur thinking like an Entrepreneur story.

And don’t forget “Fear” is the first illusion you need to  eradicate from your thinking if you want to be a successful Entrepreneur.

Next week we will talk about “Judgment” Another thought to align to succeed as an Entrepreneur.

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We are all geniuses up to the age of ten.

~Aldous Huxley~

See…? The genie in the bottle is within,  in that child who carried the connection with divinity and was bullied to forget…led by the illusion of separation and competition in its ultimate ignorance.

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A child-like man is not a man whose development has been arrested; on the contrary, he is a man who has given himself a chance of continuing to develop long after most adults have muffled themselves in the cocoon of middle-aged habit and convention.

~Aldous Huxley~

Yes yes, your child-like traits, and your day dreaming are the symptoms of your creativity and your connection to divinity…Your Inner Child being supported by you. It shows part of you didn’t comply with the societal murder of your soul.

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Forgiveness is the answer to the child’s dream of a miracle by which what is broken is made whole again, what is soiled is made clean again.

~Dag Hammarskjold ~

Buddah says “Your enemy is your master”. When you understand the other part is bringing an important message for your growth, when you understand it is important to decipher those codes, when you understand you have to become a master at reading those codes, no matter ho deep the pain, you understand there is nothing to forgive because the situation is there created by yourself, in order to become whole, and your Inner Child can be incorporated within you in its ultimate purity.

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Happy is he who still loves something he loved in the nursery: He has not been broken in two by time; he is not two men, but one, and he has saved not only his soul but his life.

~G.K. Chesterton~

I couldn’t have said it better. somebody “who has not been broken in two by time”. Somebody who has not been divided or dissociated inside. Somebody who had permission to be whole. Somebody whose soul’s voice kept its authority. Simple as that and at the same time, difficult as that.

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